Mayla Green, gender expert and co-founder regarding the Adult Toy Shop clarifies that cowgirl does not mean you sit-up straight along with your partner at a 90-degree direction, but alternatively, you will want to slim onward a little (up to a 45-degree position) for the ideal and most safe entrance. 7. work on all of them. Candice Smith, a gender specialist and co-founder from the Kink system, states to move yourself as if you’re dance. “sit-up and swivel their sides while you are atop them. You can use the hands on the hips for balance or place them on either side of those.”